Debra Basham

Living and Loving

Tag: life and death

  • Scalar Energy Healing – It Can’t Hurt

    I attended an introduction to an energy healing process called scalar energy with developer Tom Paladino. Tom offers anyone who sends in a photo a 15-day free trial.

    Over the years, I have shared MANY experiences with healers and healing. What I like most about all of them is the fact: it cannot hurt. Western medicine certainly utilizes a lot of interventions with plenty of possible side effects.

    One key is to notice what you expect. Henry Ford is quoted as having said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right.”

    When you have a sore knee, notice if you name it “arthritis.” Many of my readers have heard my story of Freedom from Pain.

    While it is true, not everyone will experience exactly what I have, it is good to always expect something good to come to you and/or your loved ones from whatever you decide what is right for you at this very moment.

    If you choose to take an antibiotic, do that in a healthy way, like the one I describe in this video.

    If you decide to sign up for the free 15-day trial, expect to notice improvement.

    It can’t hurt….

    P.S. Tom is trying to sell you a longer application. His is a transparent agenda: he hopes those in the world with the financial means will opt in to pay for his altruistic work with populations who are unable to pay and in need of healing of pathogenic disease, such as those in Africa with the HIV virus. As Tom says, “I want to heal the world.” I encouraged him to think bigger.

  • Who Are You Dancing With?


    Trust me,
    she knew who she was dancing with
    the entire time.
    She just chose to see the good in everybody.
    I personally do not think she should change
    that about herself.
    It is possible her energy could even bring out
    the best in the devil.
    ~ author unknown

    Each year I look forward to a spiritual ritual for the celebrating of my birthday. It is not for sissies, this incarnational experience.

    It can even be said we are a God Spark. Our true nature is the theme of a recent post, so just trust me about this: We come from God.

    Something is happening that calls for our most profound awareness and commitment: Those most dedicated to love and light are making themselves ill over the conditions in our world.

    In My Pores

    Gratitude seeps in my pores.
    I am thankful for the wooden plaque John made for me for Christmas: Not to spoil the ending, but everything is going to be OK.
    The truth hangs on the wall of our utility room. The most mundane of situations needs the most light to be seen clearly.
    All conditions are impermanent.
    As my fingers dance over the keys on the keyboard Alexa is playing John Denver songs for my listening pleasure: “Sunshine almost always makes me high….” the harmonica calls my soul upward toward the sun.
    Loving individuals unknowingly allow their egos to take over their hearts, losing joy and making themselves sick over the conditions in the world today.
    Perhaps my birthday wish is all humans can rewrite the ending of the Myth of Icarus.
    Son of the creator of the Labyrinth, Icarus was instructed to fly neither too low nor too high. Too close, the sun’s heat would melt his wings of feathers and wax. Too low, the sea’s dampness would clog his wings. Not heeding the warning to avoid the extremes, the former Icarus fell from the sky and drowned in the sea.
    It is said about grief that if one you love dies and you refuse to live, then two have died.
    We must not ignore or deny the conditions we see in the world. We must also not collapse into helplessness or hopelessness.
    Love is our true nature.
    “Love is the light that shines from heart to heart…” John Denver sings on. Is John Denver dead? His music isn’t.
    Are you alive? Does your music live?
    Seventy candles on my cake.
    I think I will make my cake a lemon pie, the juice squeezed from a lemon picked (better to ask forgiveness than permission) from a tree where succulent fruit is left to fall to the ground and rot.
    Let not the light of our eternal love lay wasted by lamenting conditions which are impermanent.

    Gratitude is in our pores.

    All conditions are impermanent…

    Sheilana Massey invited those gathered for meditation for world peace to consider that every expression of the Divine has a right to be. The darkness and the light. The pleasant and the unpleasant. The old and the young.

    As Betty Lue Leiber’s Loving Reminder for January 15, 2020 said, the only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.

    I look at the crepey skin on my arms, and the brown spots on my hands. I ponder what the next decade will bring in our world. I choose to let my light shine.

  • Blood Relatives

    Sacred Stories

    Following his mother’s death, the man who had been his “father” as he was growing up told him he was not his real father.

    Soon, he was also told who his biological father was.

    And he discovered that he had siblings!

    Making contact with those folks, he learned his father and siblings knew about him.

    For years, he had been greeted with a big smile and warm words by the woman who worked at the hospital. That woman was his half-sister.

    In fact, when he had a grand opening of his restaurant, his father and sister had come.

    While he had just lost his mother, he had also received the gift of a larger family.

    The events of our lives might not always be simple, but Divine LOVE is within everything…

  • Screech Owl

    Sacred Stories

    He was awakened from a deep sleep by a very loud screeching sound. He opened the front door and looked out.

    An Eastern Screech Owl was perched on a branch, screeching!

    Owls were messengers, telling of a death. He “knew” immediately his mother had died.

    The following morning he drove to his parent’s home. Walking in the door, his father said, “Your mother is dead.”

    “I know,” he replied.

    “How do you know?” his dad asked.

    “A little bird told me,” popped out of his mouth.

    Pay attention. Nature is one of the ways we receive information.

  • When the Time is Right

    Sacred Stories

    She went to get a hair cut. The salon was intimate, located in the breezeway of the hairdresser’s home. As she arrived for her appointment, the hairdresser introduced her to the previous client.

    They discovered they lived in the same town.

    “We live on a very oddly shaped street,” the client gave her the street name.

    “I live on that street, too!”

    The street is “U” shaped. As the other client described where on the street she lived, it was right across from her, just one house down!

    “Did you just move in?” she inquired quickly.

    “We have been there twenty-three years,” was the reply.

    Although they had not met in all those years of living across the street from one another, her daughter had once many years ago been babysitter for the other client’s child.

    When the time is right….

  • A Little Bird

    Sacred Stories

    She was sitting inside one of the top medical centers in the United States after a doctor’s appointment that had not gone as well as she would have liked. Nothing terribly serious—issues related to age and high blood pressure, etc.

    She was thinking everything over: life, work, family, their recent move to another state. She was wondering if it was the right choice.

    A little bird perched on the chair across from her!


    She had had a rough childhood, and with her mother’s death much that had been unresolved came up for her.

    Peace had been coming. She was realizing the truth that her mother is now in her true form.

    Even though there had been distance between them in their physical lives, somehow there was a present understanding that her mom did love her.

    With so many others in this waiting area, the little bird landed on the chair and sat looking at her for a several minutes before it flew away.


    Her mother loved to bird watch with her father and her mother had shared that love with her.

    She knew her mother’s presence and love were with her right now….

  • Giraffe Chair

    Yesterday while out riding my bike, I found this adorable giraffe chair in someone’s trash. The beauty was complelling, even with patches of dry rot. I pulled the chair out of the trash, moving it carefully to a place of safety until I could get John to bring the van and pick it up.

    The giraffe chair is now sitting in the TV room!



    As I am working on my birthday post for next week, my friend/teacher/colleague, Betty Lue Lieber posted this Loving Reminder:

    Affirmations:
    I choose to see what is real.
    I am open and willing to learn what is really there.
    I seek only the highest truth and see with the eyes of Love.
    Miracles occur when we see what is real.

    January 15, 2020 Loving Reminders- What Is Real! by Betty Lue Lieber

    See What Is Real!

    What do you see?
    We each see and hear what we want to see.
    We think the thoughts we have been taught.
    We hold the thoughts in our mind and perceive them.

    What do you see?
    I seek the truth, the Essence
    I clear my mind with forgiveness of all pre-judging (prejudice.).
    I choose to see what is real.

    What do you see?
    Are you willing to see?
    Do you open your minds to what is there?
    Are you caught in the beliefs of your tribe?

    When we see with the vision of the world around us, we see what they see.
    When we see with the eyes of the child, with wonder and curiosity, we see with openness.
    When we see what we can use to get something, we seek how to use others.
    When we see what we fear and criticize, we avoid and try to control.

    What can you learn?
    When you seek to learn, you must be open.
    When you seek to learn, you must listen.
    When you seek to learn, you must be willing.

    This new movie, Hidden Figures, is from my era of open willingness without media.
    I saw myself as a high school graduate and college student, with equal opportunity.
    This was my world, my loving home, my parenting, my exposure to emancipation.
    I was white and sheltered by innocence and seeing everyone as equal in value.

    I realize now how I was not raised with prejudice or fear.
    I see now how I saw a world clean of fear and doubt, hatred and criticism.
    I saw humanity as a large family of love and respect, open-mindedness and kindness.
    I recognize how I only saw the equality and beauty and unlimited abilities in all.

    What a blessing to know!
    What a beauty to see!
    What a wonder to learn!
    What a joy to be free!

    Let’s clear our minds to see what is real!
    Loving us all, everyone as One!
    Betty Lue

    The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.

    Something is happening that calls for our most profound awareness and commitment: Some of the individuals most dedicated to love and light are making themselves ill over the conditions in our world. They are turning out their lights because of the darkness they see!

    I am not sure who put the beautiful hand-painted giraffe chair in the trash for me to find, but the signature on the back says it was painted by Erica J. Murray.

    I looked up the totem meaning of giraffe: Gentle Giraffe, with its long neck reaching into the heavens symbolizes the ability to see the future and obtain things that would normally be out of reach. When your life is chaotic, Giraffe reminds you to keep your head up and avoid getting entangled in needless arguments.

    Life is certainly chaotic.

    Let’s keep our heads up!

    Let’s keep our light shining in the world. That is the most wise and kind thing to do in the darkness.

    Thank you, Erica…. Thank you, Gentle Giraffe.

  • Our True Nature

    The past two days I have been attending an online intensive with a group of dedicated individuals. Most individuals are dedicated to something. This group is dedicated to opening to awareness, also called “Pure Mind.” This particular series has been meeting weekly for the past year-and-a-half. Many of this group have been studying together for well over ten years.

    Our teacher lovingly reminds us we are not trying to get somewhere or become something we are not. We are simply setting our intention to allow ourselves to experience the awareness that is already our true nature. This was the randomly selected though for the day that came yesterday:


    Deep Spring Center

    Thought for Today

    “These are the people to whom you must talk:

    your neighbors, your coworkers, your parents and children,

    beings with good intentions who want to offer positive polarity

    but also may still be so grounded in their fear

    that when something comes along and shakes them, they react.

    These are the ones who must begin to learn they have a choice,

    and if they react from fear and it causes harm,

    they are responsible.

    And you you who are edging beyond that neutrality,

    more grounded in your positive polarity,

    must be their teachers.”

    For the past 6 weeks I had been unsuccessful trying to purchase a Magic Eye 2020 Calendar. The Magic Eye website announced Walmart as the exclusive merchandiser, but the stores all listed the item as “out-of-stock.”

    A few days ago, I searched ONE more time. The Walmart my brother-in-law shops at while he winters here in Southwest Florida listed the calendar “in-stock.” I sent him a photo, asked if he would check the next time he was there, and now I am thrilled to have one in my possession.


    In the Gospel of Thomas, Patterson/Meyer translation, Jesus said, “The (Father’s) kingdom is like a person who had a treasure hidden in his field but did not know it. And [when] he died he left it to his [son]. The son [did] not know about it either. He took over the field and sold it. The buyer went plowing, [discovered] the treasure, and began to lend money at interest to whomever he wished.”

    One of our practices is simply to look at a tree. We are to notice the branches, and then notice the space between. We are to allow our attention to shift between these, knowing that both ARE: simultaneous existence moving in and out of our awareness.

    The Subtle Communication Systems (SCS) training that Joel P. Bowman and I developed and taught for twenty years included higher sense perception. SCS was a synergy of energy medicine (Healing Touch and Reiki) and NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming). Joel and I studied for many years with Richard Bandler, co-developer of NLP.

    A renowned Buddhist nun and meditation teacher from Thailand Joel and I met at a Bandler training in Orlando read our training manual and said, “Debra, this is a shortcut to enlightenment!”

    Students learned to observe the true nature of their subjective experience: every experience went in as visual, auditory, and kinesthetic stimuli simultaneously! Even if all you noticed was a loud sound, or a flash of bright light, your actual experience (and your internal representation of that experience) includes all of your senses. We played games to help us notice the sensory system we were least aware of.

    One day in class, Joel reached out and touched a locket worn by one of the students. He said, “I see an image of a blonde-haired girl, about 8 years old.”

    “That is who gave me this locket,” exclaimed the student.

    When Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right,” he was giving us a great gift. If you think you are not enlightened, you are right. If you think you are enlightened, you can be in the world with greater wisdom and kindness and awareness.

    Joel and I watched sooooo many individuals wake up to what was within them all along.

    I love the Magic Eye calendar! The easiest way to see the hidden images is to begin looking closely at what you can see. Hold the page close to your nose. Relax your vision: trying too hard makes it too hard. With your eyes relaxed, slowly pull the page away from your face. As you see the 3-D image, hold the page and let yourself enjoy how easy it is.

    Where was it when you could not see it? Right there. It already is. The branches and the space ARE.

    If you are working too hard trying, relax, let yourself see what is already there. You are a soul. Every individual is a precious child of god.

    You already are that which you seek.

    That is your true nature….

  • Weather or Whether?

    Sacred Stories

    He had planned to travel out-of-state to attend the memorial service for his nephew. A couple of days prior to departure, at his sister’s urging, he made the decision to not travel because of a severe weather forecast.

    Turns out there was another reason for that guidance….

    He had severe forearm pain and went to the emergency room near his home town.

    Blood clots were found in his arm, a result of having been taken off blood thinners due to a recent GI bleed.

    He was transferred by ambulance to a large hospital in a nearby town he was familiar with, and after a team of doctors reviewed his history, he will be having an “open” surgery today to remove the clots.

    He and his family are so grateful he can be closer to home and that he is working with doctors that know his history.

    This is another example of how LIFE takes everything into consideration.

  • Hello Old Friend, Welcome New Friend

    Sacred Stories

    My husband and I were out enjoying our afternoon at a local winery. When we left there, he suggested we stop by a brewery on the way home. This brewery is not our typical, “let’s stop” place and we’ve never been there on a Sunday, but the day was a great day to be out. Getting out would lift my spirits.

    He knows that I’ve been missing my friend who transitioned quite a bit lately. She was my bestie for like 18 years, and she passed several years ago from colon cancer. Sometimes the missing can get intense.

    Another friend of mine has suggested that I try the Bloody Mary at this brewery, so we sat at the bar and I ordered one.

    A woman sitting next to me started up a conversation. She asked me how my Bloody Mary was and told me how she loved one of the beers there. She had come from out of state to get that beer before it was gone.

    We exchanged names. Her name was the same as my friend!

    I had to smile at the timing of this meeting. My husband understood the importance of this as well. He brews beer and years ago had named a wheat beer after my friend and her miniature donkeys. She loved having a beer named after her, and we all laughed about how cool that was.

    This woman was really nothing like my friend, other than she sounded very independent and matter-of-fact like my friend had been. During our conversation, we had so many things in common and I had the same feeling that I had when I first met my late friend. Both times, I had a knowing, “I have to be friends with this person!”

    The meeting even got more funny as this new friend asked how my old friend had spelled her name.

    She looked me in the eyes and said, “My name is spelled the other way with an “ie.”

    When I first met my old friend’s sister, she had introduced herself as Kelli with an “i”. My first thought during that meeting was an internal chuckle and that she had two eyes. I didn’t choose to say that at that initial introduction, but from that moment on whenever I referred to my friend’s sister, I always said, “with an i.”

    My new friend’s reference to the spelling of her name really hit home with me. I felt my old friend might be setting up this meeting, and it definitely was emotionally uplifting.

    Before we left the brewery my new friend asked me to put her number in my phone so we can get together again.

    Pretty cool…Hello, Old Friend, and welcome, New Friend.❤️

    (Shared by a friend on Facebook.)