Living and Loving
A friend’s obituary showed up in my inbox at work. I process obits.
My friend was 97. She had given me a Tupperware container before she moved away four years earlier.
My lunch salad was in that container. The previous day I noticed the lid had cracked….
She noticed a street light went out. She had a wondering if it was a communication from her husband.
At that exact moment of her wondering, a second street light also went out!
It was such a gift that someone was there to perform CPR on her husband when he collapsed. The most significant synchronicity was that the mail carrier who saved his life was running two hours later than usual, plus it was her first day back on the job after two weeks off!
Sometimes you notice destiny as it plays out before your eyes….
Her most frequent snack of late was mandarin oranges. She was driving on a four-lane road, when—on the dotted line in her lane—she saw a single mandarin orange slice.
Recognizing it as odd, she missed the message of a visit from her husband until the very next day (on a different four-lane road!) she saw—again on the dotted line in her lane—another single mandarin orange slice.
She had a back brush she would use to scratch her back when it itched. She kept the brush on the floor next to her bed.
One night, soon after her husband died, when she turned down her bed, the brush was in their bed!
Last night, on our way home from Mikey’s memorial gathering, we had a wonderful and majestic experience.
As we pulled up into our driveway, there was a beautiful 12 point buck, standing in the full moon light. He stood there looking right at us for a good long minute. It was picture perfect.
It was like our friend was saying hi and good bye. It just took our breath away.
Bernie’s passing on January 23 was not a total shock as he had been up and down with complications of COPD for a few years. However, when she wrote to a mutual friend to share the news, the reply was, “Just yesterday I was wondering how Bernie was doing.”
Later, learning more details, they discovered Bernie had slipped into a coma the day before he completed his transition, so he may well have paid a visit that day. Often when it appears we are thinking of someone in spirit, we discover that person was making contact with us.
One additional touching layer of coincidence: Bernie passed on the birthday of another good friend—also named Bernie!