Debra Basham

Living and Loving

Tag: husband

  • Mints – A Double

    Soon after the husband of her friend had passed the white-with-red-stripes, soft, sugary mints he loved gifting to his wife started showing up. (See “Mints”.)

    For over 20 years now, this particular type of soft mint had been recognized as a welcome message of his everlasting love!

    While planning to be visiting with their family in Tennessee, they learned the husband of a couple they had gotten to know through their daughter had just died. The funeral was taking place while they were there and they were going to be able to go. In the long line waiting to visit with the wife before the funeral started, she spotted a dish of the special mints across the room. She went over, picked up two, snapped a photo, and sent that to her friend.

    After the funeral, as she was exiting the building, she walked back to the bowl to get a few more for her friend. When she looked closer, there was a double!

    The precious response to this photo of the double was, “I am always touched when a double appears.”

    It seemed a perfect assurance that this friend, too, would be faithfully watching over his wife….

  • Birthday Beach Frog

    She was walking the beach early in the morning on her birthday June 6, 2024…. conversing with her husband in spirit as she always does…. especially on beach walks. It is always so peaceful for her, and one of their favorite activities together collecting beach glass and rocks.

    Lo and behold! A frog jumped out of Lake Michigan, hopped up the beach, passed where she had stopped suddenly, turned and hopped back into the lake.

    She dropped to her knees. Stunned, although at this point why should she be?

    See Tree Frogs! posted December 1, 2018.

    She is so grateful she has opened her heart and been guided forward on this journey of life without her husband in his physical body next to hers.

    She says, “He is with me always.”

  • Bear and Heart – BIG LOVE!

    Sacred Stories

    She and her husband found this bear at a rock shop in Canada and they both fell in love with it.


    His passing was such a shock…. and loss.

    They had divorced, remaining devoted.

    Making arrangements with the funeral home, she stopped at a shop. The first thing she saw was this heart.



    She had not seen this type of stone since that day in Canada!

    “It felt like he was sending BIG LOVE today….”


  • Happy 37th Anniversary!

    Sacred Stories

    A big storm blew through and flattened a huge stem of her cosmos. She found it very wilted along the driveway.

    She brought it in and put it in the vase that friends had given to her and her late husband for their wedding.

    The following morning she was so surprised she excitedly sent this photo and accompanying message:

    “Look what greeted me this morning on my 37th wedding anniversary!”

    The ones who love us never really leave us… J.K. Rowling

  • Slow-Lee

    Sacred Stories

    She had been very recently widowed, now navigating her life without her husband of many decades. Responsibilities which had been shared by two, now sat on her shoulders, including tending to a new will.

    And now she was really feeling ALONE with all of her normal outside activities cancelled to help stop the spread of COVID-19.

    She and her good friend were both currently “safe sheltering” but would speak on the phone daily to draw support. The previous day they had each had a time of tears.

    “I had a dream last night,” she said. “Every time I used the incorrect grammar in my class saying slow where I should have used the adverb slowly, a voice would add the LY.”

    “Oh, if that were my dream,” her friend excitedly burst forth, “that would be your husband coming through letting you know you do not have to worry about doing everything perfectly. He is still helping you. You are still working as a team.”

    She said slowly, “His middle name is LEE….”

  • Every Memory a Blessing

    Sacred Stories

    She was at the post office feeling so depressed having sold her late husband’s small sailboat.

    She looked across the room at a rack of greeting cards.

    A familiar image….

    A familiar message…. every memory a blessing.

    “The pain of her death was exquisite.
    I cried for weeks, but felt an incredible joy and comfort
    that was an equal part of the grief.
    I was so grateful that I had spent time with her
    — only with her, fully present and joyful.” (p.163)

    The Dharma of Dogs: Our Best Friends as Spiritual Teachers, by Tami Simon

  • How are you and Ed doing?

    Sacred Stories

    She had been thinking about her friend. The last message from her friend had come in on March 22. That message was about her friend’s husband having been hospitalized in ICU.

    One month later, she received a message asking about a session for her friend’s daughter.

    She wrote back, asking about her friend’s husband.  “How are you and Ed doing?”

    The friend said, “I think I need a session, too.” They agreed to meet the following morning.

    Her friend showed her she had sent a text message with the news that her husband had passed.

    She grabbed her phone.

    Although it showed up in her friend’s phone as having been sent, they were both shocked to see that the message about him having passed was not in her string of text messages!

    (Note – Interference with technology is a commonly shared ‘happening’ by loved ones who have passed.)

    Grateful to know beyond a doubt, my friend AND her husband are both doing well….

     

     

     

     

  • Kindle!

    She gifted her mother-in-law a Kindle (digital reading device), but her mother-in-law (being of the older generation) never used it.
    kindle

    Several times after the death of her mother-in-law, she noticed her own Kindle would be on in the middle of the night, although she always thought she was sure to turn it off after reading in bed before falling asleep.

    One night, her husband had a dream about his mother. Waking from the dream, he got up to go use the bathroom.

    When he came back to bed, his wife’s Kindle was turned on!