Living and Loving
Just as we now have a new address, so my brother-in-love, Jim, also has a new address. Jim was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer this past November. Although a very difficult time, he and his family found gifts tucked inside the days. He passed from this life today about 5:00 am.
I am choosing to hold on to what I know to be real: within every experience I have the opportunity to learn love. This is brought home by a very stressful interaction with our granddaughter who is here visiting. You could say she is 18 going on 40, if you know what I mean.
I remember the day her mom and grandpa and I were riding with her soon after she got her driving permit. As we came into the subdivision the back way she was not quite up on two wheels, but she was for sure going way too fast. “Slow down!” yelled her mom.
“I know what I am doing!” she shot back.
“You are going way too fast,” her grandpa added.
In a voice sounding more calm than my innards felt I said simply the truth, “Between your mom and your grandpa and me we have about 120 years of driving experience. You may not be mature enough to admit it but we are a better judge of your driving right now than you are.”
Last night she stepped way over our boundary when she came in at 3:00 am. I do not know where she really was all that time or what she was doing but I do know that her “attitude” is a pattern of behavior she has played out with her mom many times before.
We miss seeing what is obvious to others because that is the nature of shadow work.
My brother-in-love was changed dramatically during this journey with cancer. He learned to laugh easily and he helped others do the same. Just last Sunday when he asked his wife for nail scissors she cautioned him to be careful with them. He has been very shaky. He took the scissors and then feigned a dangerously shaky hand before their eyes met and they both giggled.
My granddaughter and her mom and I may not be ready to tease and laugh easily about our parts in all of this but we will all feel better as we can.
William Arthur Ward said to make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; and to be able to laugh at yourself is maturity.
My granddaughter is only 18. My brother-in-law was past 70. We have time….
A woman who works as a healer using energy medicine received a call from her adult son. He and his children were driving from their home to hers (a significant distance several states away).
“I am not sure if I should turn around and head back home,” he said. His daughter had been sick, forcing them to stop a couple of times already. He wanted to attend the 80th birthday celebration for his uncle and see his mother, but he was not sure that was best for his daughter.
Asking permission, his mother said, “Would you like for me to do some distant healing with her as you drive, and see how she does?” He agreed.
As the woman began doing the healing work, her granddaughter fell asleep. When she woke up, she was feeling better, and they were able to continue to the family event.
