Debra Basham

Living and Loving

Tag: fear

  • Divine Order

    For three years she had been struggling with the issue in of bleeding in her colon. The things that she had gone through — including transfusions to ease the horrific anemia exhaustion, hospitalization and IV antibiotics to fight infection, and weeks of daily sessions in that hyperbaric oxygen chamber (traumatic, with her claustrophobia) but nothing she had done had eradicated the risk of colon cancer.

    Telling his nurse her guts were hostile, the surgeon finally agreed to do surgery. Heroic efforts for preparation followed months of scheduling delays, but the operating room had been booked for the entire day.

    They made the early morning trip and she was as prepared as she thought she could be. Things did not go the way she expected. After administering the epidural, her hand went numb. The surgery was scrapped!

    The risk of a cerebrovascular accident (stroke) had her admitted to ER and waiting hours for an MRI rather than going into pre-op, OR, post-op and having the surgery in her rear view mirror.

    Three years of the stress. The following evening through a flood of tears she named the disappointment, worry, and fear to her good friend and wellness counselor. They had journeyed together for decades, and she finally broke down, saying, “I can’t go through this again. Maybe this is the time the Lord is going to take me. But I don’t want to leave my family.”

    “You won’t leave your family,” her friend assured her, “we all leave our bodies, but we do not leave our loved ones.”

    As they continued sharing her friend asked her at what age she had first been feeling disappointment, worry and fear. The light went on. She was six years old, and her mother was the patient — in that very hospital! She spoke with renewed faith in divine order, saying simply, “I couldn’t know what was happening. I couldn’t know what the future held. All I experienced was fear. Every time I walk in there I go back to her. Thank you so very much. I feel much better and hopeful.”

    Reading from the Daily Word the following morning:

    Trusting God I release attachments and rely on divine order.

      How many times have I realized in hindsight that my life is actually better because the situation didn’t work out the way I expected or I didn’t get what I thought I wanted?

      These memories remind me of the importance of patience as I wait for divine order to unfold. Even if I’m tempted, I don’t get attached to rigid time frames or specific outcomes.

      I get clear on my goals — healthy relationships, career satisfaction, more love in my life. I take these desires into prayer and spiritually surrender them. With a grateful heart, I release my desire for control, trusting the best outcome may be beyond my imagination.

      My mind may be limited, but divine mind is limitless. I relax, release and trust divine order.

      Psalm 119:18
      Open my eyes so that I may behold wondrous things out of your law.

  • Turn Down That Alarm

    I was tagged in a Facebook post. Words I had shared had been carried around and then laminated, and framed.


    The words were:
    KNOW WHAT YOU FEAR.
    AND WHAT YOU DESIRE.
    SURRENDER THAT TO THE HIGHEST GOOD.
    LET GO OF OUTCOME.

    I soooooo needed to hear those words myself right now.

    Amanda Gorman, a 22-year-old poet, read an original work “The Hill We Climb” at President Joe Biden’s inauguration on Jan. 20, 2021.

    From her reflection about how she almost declined to be the inaugural poet:

      But though our fears may be the same, we are not. If nothing else, this must be known: Even as we’ve grieved, we’ve grown; even fatigued we’ve found that this hill we climb is one we must mount together. We are battered, but bolder; worn, but wiser. I’m not telling you to not be tired or afraid. If anything, the very fact that we’re weary means we are, by definition, changed; we are brave enough to listen to, and learn from, our fear. This time will be different because this time we’ll be different. We already are.

      And yes, I still am terrified every day. Yet fear can be love trying its best in the dark. So do not fear your fear. Own it. Free it.

    The following exchange took place between Barbara Brodsky and myself, in the chain of email messages about Amanda Gorman’s comments about fear.

    Barbara wrote about her own process of caring for her husband the past 4 years following his stroke. “The almost daily crisis of one sort or another…. higher BP, tension held long-term in my body…. the side effects of that tension (mind less clear, less able to sleep, living always on crisis mode, almost like PTSD….”

    I wrote to Barbara:

      Oh, Barbara, your words express my experience! And this is with things going well! Each moment (for both John and me) is PRODUCING compassion. I have greater compassion for your process with Hal through this.

      I had awareness yesterday doing yoga of how much I had not given credit to my yoga instructor. Her husband passed just before Covid and she was in lockdown during the throes of her grief. She had cared for him for 13 years….

      I am not alone in this…. I think of Ellen Hummel navigating all she is.

      I have too much awareness to feel sorry for myself or take this personally, but it is HARD.

      I feel the tears coming now. Just saying that is kindness.

      Nothing operates in a vacuum. “This” stress is not isolated from the tension of navigating political differences over the past 15 years.

      It is not isolated from the stress of having Covid when John’s brother suffered the abdominal aortic aneurysm, and passed. Not isolated from packing my family home at age 10.

      But — and this is a huge BUT, I see gifts in all of it.

    Someone said we can act ourselves into right thinking easier than we can think ourselves into right acting.

    Barely an hour goes by that something has not triggered that high alarm. I am getting ready right now to go get my Covid booster. John and I were scheduled to get them the day he ended up in the hospital.

    KNOW WHAT YOU FEAR.

    I know what I fear. I fear having a reaction because I had Delta Variant. I fear getting sick and not being able to take care of John.

    AND WHAT YOU DESIRE.

    I know what I desire. I desire having the best chance to not get seriously ill from Covid. I desire feeling well enough to be a helpmate for John. I desire feeling safe in my body.

    Nothing operates in isolation from everything.

    SURRENDER THAT TO THE HIGHEST GOOD.

    Feeling safe in my body now releases all the times in the past when I did not and teaches others to do the same.

    LET GO OF OUTCOME.

    If you are interested in the “FEEL SAFE IN YOUR BODY” tapping wisdom with Nick Ortner, let me know.

    As that alarm is turned down, it is replaced with love and with peace. Notice how that expands.

    I’ve learned so much from all of this….

    As hope expands, as love expands, as gratitude expands, notice how it turns down that alarm.

    Peace is only a word until it lives in your body.

    Turn down that alarm….

  • The Radiance of the Outside World

    Thought for Today

    If you live in the moment with fear,
    ‘What if this doesn’t work? What if that happens?’,
    your fear contracts your energy field.

    When thusly contracted, the light can’t pour out of you.

    Equally important, you are armored and the radiance of the outside world cannot pour in.
    ~ Aaron

    From my journal this morning:

      Dear Holy Spirit,

      I went to bed early. John stayed up later and when he came to bed I got awake and was restless. Knowing we both need rest, I went in to the guest bedroom.

      I did an internet search of coughing after bypass surgery. Some said it could last weeks and that it is very much a beneficial part of the healing and recovery.

      I listened to the tapping audio by Dawson Church and fell asleep.

      I looked at my watch the first time at 1:13 and saw that the date was January 13. That silly coincidence of it being 1:13 on 1/13 captured my attention.

      Earlier in the evening John had dozed off in the recliner in the TV room. He was so still…. I spoke his name softly. He did not respond. I called his name a bit more loudly. Nothing!

      So, I rubbed his leg, saying his name gently until he woke up. I said, “Sorry to wake you up. I was nervous.”

      A few days ago he moaned in the bathroom and scared me. A yawn, a moan, a grown…. a grunt…. a sigh, even silence all carries with it a dab of dread. He seems to understand how care and concern has blown itself into a sort of hyper-vigilance.

      How long might this rob me of the full joy and relief of these moments we are blessed with?

      None of us are promised anything more.

      Is this enough?

      Will I discard the gift of this sweet bliss in the field of forever fear?

      I hope not.

    I also saw the clock at 3:13! In Europe, they put the date before the month.

    I got up at 5:55 and this day has had moments of feeling almost normal.

    “Courage is being scared to death … and saddling up anyway.” — John Wayne

  • Authentic Power / Universal Human

    Fear is excruciating….

    Hearing Gary Zukav express something absolutely obvious — fear is excruciating — is the roadmap to living from authentic power which is our highest purpose as humans.

    Gary adds: Authentic Power refers to our ability to create positive energy and heal any issue through the power of love.

    Whereas our normal idea of power involves control and manipulation of other people, authentic power reverses this idea to assert that the true sense of power always originates within oneself. When you become centered and align with your own states of inner joy and love, you are able to tap into a source of inspiration and creative genius that few people have known. ~ Gary Zukav

    A friend reached out recently asking my advice for his finding a doctor who would respect his desire to safely titrate off mood-stabilizing medication. I responded, “It is the same process as finding anything else we think we want. Get clear on your intention to live from your highest purpose. Ask for and expect to receive divine assistance. Soften resistance around this or anything else. Let awareness guide the way.”

    If you act on an intention with fear, you are going to create painful, destructive consequences for yourself (the same as you’ve created before) because this experience in you didn’t just come about with this partner, this business partner, this neighbor, this roommate, this classmate. You’ve experienced it before.

    And you’ll experience it again as long as you continue to escape the pain of it by changing the world. ~ Gary Zukav

    Almost daily someone is implying that we need to take action against something dreadful. We need to demand equal rights for the LGBT community; we need to protest to protect the environment; we need to demand equality for race, gender, religion. We must stand up for all of these rights.

    Wholesome action is, well, wholesome, but Zukav points out that acting on an intention with fear is definitely not wholesome. In fact, taking action that is motivated by fear can create painful, destructive and even excruciating consequences.

    The Noble Eightfold Path, an early summary of the path of Buddhist practices leading to liberation consists of eight practices: right view, right resolve, right speech, right conduct, right livelihood, right effort, right mindfulness, and right samadhi. Samadhi is calm-abiding meditation, where one intends to not follow the constant flow of thoughts, to not focus on them.

    Recent news: a friend hospitalized following an intentional overdose of anxiety medication; escalation of a teenager’s mental and emotional chaos surrounding child-hood sexual trauma; a mothers recent discovery of her daughter’s anger at not having been protected from early childhood sexual trauma.

    Excruciating news.

    Injustice, abuse of power, corruption, dishonesty and despair is commonplace. These are all manifestations of fear, therefore it does not help to meet any of it with more fear.

    Zukav makes it clear: There’s nothing wrong with following that. The universe isn’t oriented in terms of right and wrong, or good and bad. It is oriented in cause and effect – there is a cause, and for every cause, there is an effect, and if you participate in the cause, you will participate in the effect.

    Today’s Daily Aaron Quote:

    There is no thought for today!

    Perhaps a reminder from the Universe that if we participate in the cause, it is not possible to not participate in the effect, so being a universal human with authentic power is totally the right action…

    Note* Here are links to the two Zukav talks these comments come from:

    Gary Zukav: Become a Universal Human with Authentic Power with Rebecca Zung

    Gary Zukav: The Simple Ways To Create Authentic Power with Vishen Lakhiani

  • Common Sense: Common Good

    Just when all the chips are down,
    the chins should be up.

    ~ Neale Donald Walsch

    This morning I could feel a subtle pull to look at media, but everybody knows as soon as a winner of the Presidential election is resolved, that news will be widely known. So, why participate in any of the drama?


    Yesterday morning, during the post-election 24-hour meditation event Deep Spring Meditation Center was hosting on Zoom, the fifty-fifty nature of the polarization of our country came up. I asked Barbara about the information SCS calls the Drama Triangle, Cognitive Triangle, and Transrational Pyramid.

    Here is a section of Aaron’s response:

      We are in the midst of a major shift in consciousness on the earth. The loyal opposition is pushing the negative polarity as much as they can. Knowing that this time was coming on Earth, not only old souls have come, to support the transition, but also, strongly negatively-polarized souls have come to try to defeat this transition, to hold the earth into the lower density.

      This is playing out on all the spheres and on all the levels including, of course, the human level. You are not pawns in some game of chess. You have enormous power. You have advisors on the spirit level, but you humans are the ones that can control whether, when, and how this transition will happen.

      Along with those of you who are of a much higher consciousness, there are those who are of high intelligence, with a lot of power and understanding of power, but with intention to use that power in service to the self. This is really what this shift is about—power in service to self, or power in service to all beings.

    The Roman games come to mind. Roman games, called ludi, were probably instituted as an annual event in 366 BC. Might common day sports be the current iteration? Or perhaps politics? Red, white, green and blue teams inspired great loyalty. Wondering if the red and blue of the political parties somehow also originated with the Roman games.

    In 532 AD rioting sparked by the disputes of chariot fans destroyed half the city of Constantinople!

    Augustus only banned fighting to the death due to a shortage of gladiators. It has been estimated that 500,000 people and more than 1 million animals died in the Coliseum, Rome’s great gladiatorial arena.

    Human history is rife with dark times.

    Dagnabbit, we have more common sense to use for the common good!

    One source attributed ‘dagnabbit’ to Elmer Fudd. His twisted version of “dang rabbit” was sputtered while stomping his foot on his hat, after the rabbit that always outwitted him when he was hunting did it again.

    In The Long Linguistic Journey to ‘Dagnabbit’ linguists say humans are afraid of speaking the True Names of enemies so we create taboo deformations. My grandmother would say flitter, in the exact same situations my dad would say $*@#….

    All too often, people go through life being cautious in the name of being careful, when it is, in fact, a matter of fear. Moving ahead boldly is a better indicator of self-assurance and has a much better chance of ending in success. ~ David J. Bloyd; MS, CMP Emeritus

    One of my dharma sisters shared a mantra composed by the Vietnamese monk, Thich Nhat Hanh, known as a philosopher, teacher of peace, and all things positive. The mantra loosens the grip fear can have on you.

    While silently breathing in, say the first line of the two-line phrase; while silently breathing out, say the second line of the two-line phrase:

      Breathing In, “I’m aware of the fear,”
      Breathing Out, “I smile to the fear;”
      (Yes, these are the appropriate words!)

      Breathing In, “I recognize fear as Energy,”
      Breathing Out, “I express Gratitude for Energy;”

      Breathing In, “Energy and Fear are Power,”
      Breathing Out, “I can safely hold Power;”

      Breathing In, “Power supports Wholesome Change,”
      Breathing Out, “I Invite That, which is for The Highest Good!”

    F.E.A.R. (false evidence appearing real) may be the true name of humanity’s only true enemy, but fear has myriad names: greed, anger, cruelty, vengeance, hatred, bigotry, sexism, racism, impatience, insecurity, shame, blame, ignorance, meanness. The list is long.

    For sure, common good is common sense….

    Breathing In, “Power supports Wholesome Change,”
    Breathing Out, “I Invite That, which is for The Highest Good!”

  • Aquaphobia

    I have spent my life so afraid of drowning I would not even let shower water flow over my face. Recently I came across the “official” diagnosis: Aquaphobia.

    Many people have an extreme fear of water. They conjure up images of dying in water, drowning, gasping for breath, or encountering eerie, unseen things such as snakes or sharks in the water. Often, those suffering from Aquaphobia are non swimmers. Some phobics not only fear large water bodies, lakes, ponds or rivers, many even fear running water or water being poured onto their heads.

    Definitely a non swimmer. Although years ago I took an adult non-swim class at the YWCA and graduated by being able to jump into the deep end and swim the length of the pool. I was so proud… I signed up for an intermediate-swim class, but the fear got reinstalled in that class. Fears can do that.

    Other than the fear of falling and loud noises—these are a result of moving from fluid (in the womb) to air—our fears are always learned.

    I learned fear of water from my mother who was afraid of EVERYTHING, and I had a near-drowning as a youngster. I also have cellular (body) memory of having died on a ducking stool—this Puritan punishment proved fatal from time to time, but prevailed in England and America from the early seventeenth century through the early nineteenth century. A woman who was accused of being a witch (or other crime) was plunged into a pond or river tied onto a wooden armchair, attached to a seesaw-like structure, as many times as the magistrate deemed justified.

    Fear is never helpful.

    My dear friend, Linda, loves the water. When she was caught in a rip current while swimming in Florida, those watching her from shore were afraid for her, but she just went with the ride, totally unafraid until they picked her up in boat.

    Fear is worth overcoming.

    This winter I have a goal of getting in the pool with Linda. She is willing. She even bought me a swimming suit!

    Fear activates the sympathetic nervous system. Often, a diagnosis or symptom, or an upcoming event is sufficient for that activation. This activation impedes healing that is natural.

    Many people are not even aware they have a vagus nerve, let alone fully appreciating its role in helping counteract the negative health impact of an overactive sympathetic nervous system (that hyper vigilant fight-or-flight response). Simply put, vagus nerve stimulation calms you down.

    The tenth cranial nerve (CN X), it is the longest cranial nerve of the central nervous system. Passing through the neck and thorax to the abdomen, it works with the parasympathetic nervous system to control the heart, lungs, and digestive track. Containing motor and sensory fibers, the vagus nerve is the most important element of the parasympathetic nervous system. (Historically, it has been called the pneumogastric nerve.)

    Vagus nerve stimulation releases anti-stress hormones and enzymes, and is associated with benefits such as better memory, improved immune function, restful sleep, and increased levels of growth hormone. Lower levels of inflammation, fewer allergic responses, and relief from tension headaches may also be directly linked to vagus nerve stimulation.

    Noninvasive vagus nerve stimulation devices, which do not require surgical implantation, have been approved for use in Europe to treat epilepsy, depression, and pain but have not yet been approved for use in the U.S.

    Unless you’re a yoga master, you cannot directly and consciously stimulate your vagus nerve. But in addition to long-term practice of yoga and meditation, here are some simple tools you can use to indirectly stimulate your vagus nerve:

    1. Diaphragmatic breathing. Simply put, belly breathing. Place your hands lightly on your belly, signaling to your body, “Breathe all the way down here.” Breathe deeply, so that your abdomen rises on the inhalation, and falls on the exhalation. Ten minutes, twice per day, will allow your breath to systematically slow and deepen.

    2. Studies show that cold water facial immersion stimulates the vagus nerve. The area behind the eyeballs is a particularly accessible zone for stimulation. An easy way to do this is to use an icy gel mask. Again, ten minutes, twice daily seems to be a good formula for improved benefits. (See http://scs-matters.com/chilling-way-calm/)

    3. Another simple technique is to quiet yourself and imagine that you are sucking on a juicy lemon drop, bathing your tongue in saliva. If that does not work for you, fill your mouth with warm water and hold it, as you allow yourself to begin to relax.

    Plenty of good reasons for you to move beyond fear.

    Goodbye aquaphobia!

  • If and When

    “Happiness can be found,
    even in the darkest of times,
    if
    one only remembers to turn on the light.”
    ~ Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban

    and

    “When
    we have accessed the peace that is ever present in our self under all circumstances,
    the body, mind, and world are profoundly affected,
    and, in time, become increasingly permeated by it.
    They begin to shine with the peace of our true nature.”
    ~ Rupert Spira, The Art of Peace and Happiness
    (Presence, Volume I)
    (Our True Nature; The Nature of Peace, Happiness and Love;
    The Origin of the Separate Self; The Body; The World; Experience)

    The afternoon did not unfold the way I had expected. I had been invited by a friend to attend a “Reader’s Theater” about 30 minutes away. I invited two mutual friends to join us. It was a lovely drive. Autumn colors dotted the woods on either side of the two-lane road, and we listened to the recording of a sermon given earlier that morning.

    One car sat forlornly in the parking lot when we arrived a mere 15 minutes before showtime. A phone call solved the mystery: the event we had come to attend had taken place the prior week!

    As so many people suffer profoundly, we find ourselves searching for the most appropriate way to be all that is happening in our political culture. For my part, I am reading Rupert Spira’s writings about nondual awareness. In an almost wordless way, it is clear our awareness is key.

    Although Spira does not use the phrase, “If and when,” that seems an appropriate title for this post. It is a phrase used to say something about an event that may or may not happen.

    Here are two books on nondual awareness by Rupert Spira:

    1. The Art of Peace and Happiness (Presence, Volume I)
    (Our True Nature; The Nature of Peace, Happiness and Love; The Origin of the Separate Self; The Body; The World; Experience}

    2. The Transparency of Things: Contemplating the Nature of Experience

    My friend recommended Spira to everyone who desires to experience liberation. She said to read the books in that order. Although they are both dated 2016, she thinks they may be reprinted from earlier material.

    Our thoughts go out to people who are feeling so very afraid. Fears loom around loss of freedom, the environment, racism, sexism. There is no denying the fear. Fear haunts our thoughts. Fear is felt in our bodies. Fear makes us experience the world as a web of hatred and dissonance humanity is caught in.

    But Spira makes a good point that our true self is not our thoughts, feelings, sensations, or perceptions. Rather, our true self is aware Presence. “Like someone whose fists have been clenched in defence for so long that they are no longer aware of it and thus feel perfectly relaxed, so our body and mind have been permeated by the tensions that are generated by the idea of a separate self.” (The Art of Peace and Happiness)

    How interesting that what we thought we were going to enjoy had already been enjoyed.

    If and when you read Spira, you will realize there is no separate self. Our “aware Presence” is inherently peaceful and, thankfully, this peace does not depend upon what may or may not happen.

    We are peace itself.

  • Spiders!

    I am starting a two-year study with Barbara Brodsky and Aaron and John Orr. As a preparation, Barbara shared a detailed meditation/dream she had where she was asked what her highest intention was. As part of this process, a high being conducted a sort of interview. This being asked if there were those who would speak to their experience of Barbara.

    The deva of the lady bugs came forth saying Barbara had been carefully removing them from the window sill and gently taking them outdoors.

    A deva of the spiders said Barbara was fearful and had done great harm to their kind when they approached her. She admitted this was true.

    The wise being conducting the interview said, “These balance each other out.”

    As I read the rest of Barbara’s accounts, each balancing one another out, I wondered who would speak and what could be said about me.

    One of my most frequent mantras is, “May all beings come to the end of suffering.” Each Sunday morning Celeste closes our meditation with the extended version including the wish that all beings know love and find peace. Is that enough?

    Wondering if the times I have worried about finances and withheld my generosity be balanced by the times when you know you are supported by the abundance of the universe and give generously. “I am a co-signer on God’s bank account.” Do you know this truth?

    Perhaps the moments of patiently waiting in line or traffic or saying for the third time still with kindness how to do something will be able to balance my sharp tongue and unwholesome reply when anxious about something.

    What will be made of our lives? What is being made?

    I had a post-Sangha conversation on the sidewalk with Don as we were leaving the library. He spoke of the great understanding coming from a true sense of what is meant by the term karma. One might steal, cheat, lie, then find themselves on the receiving end of unkindness and true lack of safe conditions for life. If you can recognize the starting of the turning of the wheel, you can release any sense of being a victim.

    One of my earliest jobs was to count 50 gallon wooden barrels filled with cherries in bleach solution for making maraschino cherries. (Yes, before they become artificially red or green, toxic chemicals are used to make them white. Yuck!) Many dozens of barrels laid end-to-end in the wide open field adjacent to the warehouse of the cider mill my dad managed. Our job was to walk the barrels, stepping from one to the next, counting, making sure the people took what they paid for. This was the perfect home to a gadzillion HUGE yellow and black field spiders.

    In my childish fear, I did not understand the benefit of these creatures. I only knew the fear. We would catch dozens of them in jars where they would fight to the death in this unnatural lack of territory. The unnatural environment made the spiders appear fierce and hostile.

    Interestingly, years later I would discover “spider” is my one of my primary animal totems…

    Thankfully, we can come to a genuine recognition of the worth of all beings and experiences.

    The Four Immeasurables as a Traditional Tibetan Buddhist Prayer

    May all beings have happiness and the cause of happiness.
    May they be free of suffering and the cause of suffering.
    May they never be disassociated from the supreme happiness which is without suffering.
    May they remain in the boundless equanimity, free from both attachment to close ones and rejection of others.

  • Thankful for Release

    Thanksgiving means different things to different people. This year, I am thankful for more than most.

    So many people I love are navigating challenging situations; adult children passing with cancer, living with addictions or with those with addictions, recovering from surgery, and money stress (or lack of money stress). At the root of all of these lies FEAR.

    In essentially every situation, fear is not ideal, and religions offer many warnings.

    Of course, those who recognize we live in an inclusion-based universe realize that telling yourself not to be afraid can be counterproductive, given that sometimes it is not even your fear.

    This week while in Tennessee for Thanksgiving I was blessed to visit with a good friend who is a Nurse Practitioner. She is also a healer. She knew immediately that I had picked up some attachments, and this was the cause of the anxiety-driven elevation in blood pressure I have been experiencing.

    My initial exposure to spirit release work was in Healing Touch, through Kathy Sinnett, and a very small book, The Unquiet Dead by Dr. Edith Fiore. Her work was studied and performed (and published) by William J. Baldwin in a very big book, Spirit Releasement Therapy: A Technique Manual.

    I was fortunate to be trained by Robert and Caterina Pellegrino-Estrich as well.

    One suggestion my friend made is to notice when you are feeling anything other than good. Depression, addictions, chronic pain, fatigue, anxiety. These are all symptoms that might be appropriate for spirit release work.

    Caterina says spirit release is the first therapy to be done regardless of the presenting problem. Kathy Zerler says if you treat everyone you meet as someone who is in pain you are probably treating them right. Perhaps this is true about energetic attachments, too.

    I work in this field and I had missed my own state of attachment. I certainly feel better today.

    What else might be possible as you take responsibility to clear your energy field….

    Steps to Spirit Release Work and Soul Retrieval

    Opening ritual from Angel Gail Konz:

    I am the light
    The light is within me
    The light moves throughout me
    The light surrounds me
    The light protects me
    I am the light!

    Addressing the attachment with genuine love and desire for well-being for all:

    You died and you don’t have a body.
    Your being attached to hurting me and it is not good for you.
    There is no hell. All that awaits you is a wonderful light body.
    Look for the light. Beings that love you are welcoming you so we can both be free
    We all deserve to be free. You are loved. Go now….

    You will sense this release, maybe seeing or hearing confirmation as well. Immediately begin to call your spirit back from this time in childhood. You might imagine picking a bouquet of flowers or gathering a basket of fruit or any metaphor that allows you to claim all of your own genuine parts. Others can have their own…

    Closing ritual:

    I release all energy that does not belong here. I release all karmic responsibility and obligation in and around this work, knowing the work comes from our expanded self and God. I give thanks for the many blessings, above all the honor and privilege of serving.