Tag: encouragement

  • Nips

    Sacred Stories

    When I sat six boxes of Nips on the counter at the local Walgreens, the cashier said, “You must really like these.”

    “I can’t easily get them while I am in Florida, so I like to stock up. They are only 30 calories. A great way to calm cravings,” I responded.

    “My grandma loved them….” her voice trailed off. “She passed away last June.”

    “Are you Hispanic?” I asked, and she nodded her head yes. “You are so fortunate your culture honors our loved ones continuing to be with us. Day of the dead…. Your culture knows you don’t have to wait until you die to be together.” I smiled.

    As she put the boxes in my bag she continued, “My daughter is nine months old. My friend and I were driving and my daughter was just smiling sitting in her car seat in the back. I told my friend she does that a lot. My friend said it is probably my grandma….”

    How wonderful to share this truth with one another. We were not strangers. Nips and her grandma had brought us together.

    Thank you, Grandma….

  • See the Blessings in Disguise

    Sacred Stories

    Her husband is in a facility after having had a major stroke almost two years ago. He is losing Medicaid coverage for physical therapy. The physical therapist expressed a willingness to volunteer her time to train the private-pay care team that was working to help him maintain physical strength they have been able to develop.

    Mere minutes before the training, the administration of the facility said their liability insurance prohibits anyone other than their licensed therapists doing therapy for him.

    She was so angry…. She went home frustrated and fuming.

    She got in the hot tub and was crying and crying.

    Finally some space opened up as she realized an option is to have the private-pay care team transport her husband to their home 4 to 5 days per week and do the therapy there.

    She cried even harder when she realized that this plan will likely make him much happier!

    What a blessing to be able to see the blessings in disguise….

  • Welcome Dad!

    Sacred Stories

    The small building out back had been her dad’s man cave. They called it willeyville.


    Her dad had passed, but she still loved the ambiance in that space.

    She writes:

    “I am out in willeyville lighting the fire and getting it warm because my sister is coming over and we are going to do a family craft project. While lighting the fire I heard a noise behind me and turned around and the door was open. I had shut that door. Welcome Dad!”

    Especially at this time of year, notice happenings that remind us our loved ones are still loving us and enjoying our enjoying our lives.

  • By Your Side

    Sacred Stories

    The two women had not previously met even though they had both lived in the same 55-and-over community for a few years. Their interaction at the mail station resulted in a conversation about their mothers having both passed.

    “My mom used to live in that blue house right there,” she pointed.

    That home was now owned by a dear friend of the other woman.

    “I know she is always with me,” she continued.

    “What evidence do you have that she continues to be with you?” the other woman asked.

    “She gave me this charm.” Her gloved hand held a charm with ‘I will always be by your side’ engraved on it.

    “It isn’t just the charm, though. I can feel her with me all the time,” she continued.

    The two woman hugged.

    What a wonderful chance meeting, and what an important reminder. Those who love us are never gone from us….

  • Love Makes the World Go Around

    Sacred Stories

    She was writing in her journal about ‘LOVE’ being four parts of speech: noun, verb, adjective, and adverb.

    She wanted to write a sentence using the word love as each of those. She wrote, “Noun: Love makes the world go around.”

    Then she could not think of how to use the other forms, so she did a Google search for ‘Is love an adverb?’

    Her Google search used her exact sentence: “OK, it’s not an usual adverb. Love is a noun and a verb. For example, “love makes the world go around.” …

    Lessons don’t always have to be earth shattering. Just notice the way things are. The way things are is plenty amazing!

  • Calamities

    Patience is needed with everyone, but first of all with ourselves.

    ~Saint Francis De Sales

    One of the daily thoughts I receive comes from Neale Donald Walsh.

    This one was was especially poignant:

    On this day of your life, I believe God wants you to know
    that nothing is ever as bleak as it looks.
    Everything, in fact, is a blessing.

    I know, I know… that is sometimes very hard
    to believe. How can a sudden, calamitous event in one’s life
    be a blessing? It takes a longer view, I know,
    to see this wonderful truth. Even a diagnosis
    of a terminal illness could be seen as another gift
    from life when experienced from a particular perspective.

    It is an opportunity for us to express once again,
    at the next highest level, Who We Really Are.
    And, if it turns out that, at the Soul level, we have
    indeed decided to leave our present physicality
    in this particular way and time, that, too,
    would be an expression of our Highest Self.

    And so, all “calamities” are blessings,
    not yet understood by the Mind.

    God knew this was a good day
    for you to hear this…
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    Perhaps every day is a good day to recall that “calamities” are blessings.

    Those who have been following “Sailing Lady Gail” likely know that this week has brought calamities in the “Adventures of Doug and Stacey.” Their first open-water sail was 30 hours of 8-foot-plus rolling waves. Stacey violently vomited for 20 hours so Doug had to stay at the helm without sleep. When they got into safe harbor they were both spent.

    I saw a powerful video on Facebook. While the video is 10 things you should never do to a person with Alzheimer’s, it outlines appropriate kindness to persons in all challenging circumstances.

    1. Never argue, instead agree.

    2. Never reason, instead divert.

    3. Never shame, instead distract.

    4. Never lecture, instead reassure.

    5. Never say “Remember,” instead reminisce.

    6. Never say “I told you,” instead repeat.

    7. Never say, “You can’t,” instead let them do what they can.

    8. Never command, instead ask.

    9. Never condescend, instead encourage.

    10. Never force, instead reinforce.

    The closing message is: Remember that your loved one with Alzheimer’s can understand kind touch, laughter, and smiles even if they’ve lost most of their verbal skills.

    As they await the arrival of some parts to repair an electrical issue on the boat, Doug and Stacey are being cared for well by her Uncle Jack Basham in Largo, Florida.


    They are receiving lots of kind touch, laughter and smiles!

    And after a few days on dry land, Stacey and Doug are now back to the dream drawing board. Details to follow….

  • Relief!


    The Comcast saga came to an end late yesterday morning. Today my fingers are on the keyboard of my PC and I am connected to the SCS domain. The solution was actually simple. And it is what Donny, my customer service agent at my local Comcast store, suggested to me weeks ago: Swap out the modem.

    Relief is an interesting concept. Relief is defined as a feeling of reassurance and relaxation following release from anxiety or distress or assistance, especially in the form of food, clothing, or money, given to those in special need or difficulty.

    Alison, I’m not sure to whom this message of appreciation should be addressed, but I want someone within the Comcast organization to know what you did for me.

    I had been struggling between Comcast and my web host since October 18. On November 7, when I found you I had spent over 30 hours having to give the same information over and over, and never being able to follow up with someone I had spoken to previously.

    I was rude, frustrated, angry, and you stayed right with me and assured me you would not leave me until the issue was resolved.

    Although you were not able to resolve the issue that evening, you gave me your extension number and email. I became a real person to you. I cried!!! I mattered to you, and that matters to everyone.

    During this period of time I was struggling with the problem with my service we had two deaths in our family. People have a lot going on….

    You suggested we swap out the modem and when I got the new one the following morning, you were able to assist me to get the help from Kevin to activate it.

    I sent email and left voice mail letting you know we were successful. Then you called again to make sure everything was working correctly.

    Donny, at the Benton Harbor, Michigan, store was the first one to suggest we swap the modem. I wish everyone could work with you and Donny…. everyone deserves to!

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

    During these weeks of frustration I have said many times I recognized this as an opportunity. I have learned a lot. I learned we do not have to call Comcast and go through 30 minutes of being passed from one person to another only to have to tell them the exact information before getting to someone who cannot help you. Using the Comcast app on your phone, you can give the information once and request a call back. The appropriate person calls you back. Oh, my….

    Another learning has been to see how kind the conditions are. Regardless of how challenging, right here within the conditions is kindness.

    It is kindness to let it go each time no resolution was at hand.

    It is kindness to persevere and make another call when I had a couple of hours. (EEK…)

    It is kindness to remember nothing is a life or death matter—not even life or death.

    It is not denial to say not even life or death is a life or death matter. It is truth.

    Over lunch yesterday my dear friend, Jane Foster, shared that even having lived with cancer for over 35 years now she still bumps into a fear of death. “Will it hurt? Will I be alone? How will my husband handle things? How will my son get through this?”

    It occurs to me these are not evidences of fear of death. They are evidences of desire to control. We want to know. We want assurances. We want things to go a certain way.

    I sent out a prayer request:
    I have a precious client named Jessica.

    She is thirty-something…

    13 months ago she was told she had 17 months to live.

    Three months ago she was told she was in remission, but her most recent scan showed tumors on her liver.

    She has been at MD Anderson in Houston this week and if she is a candidate for an experimental surgery and treatment she will fly back down on November 17 and have the procedure on November 19. If there are no complications she will be able to fly back to Michigan on November 22.

    They were not very optimistic… Possibly extend her life six months.

    She asks for help with her mental state.

    Here is her Bitmoji saying:

    If you are inclined to pray, please add a special prayer for the mental state of all humans. May all beings know peace. May all beings love and be loved. May all beings come to the end of suffering.

    Pray for Alison and Donny and each of those who work in organizations that inflict such pain in the delivery of service. Pray for Jane Foster to embrace sacred life and sacred death. (See Corpse Prayer) Pray for Jessica as she navigates such turbulent waters.

    Pray that all sentient beings feel relief….

  • Suicide

    Sacred Stories

    He was mulling the subject of suicide. Essentially about why suicide is seen as bad; he had regularly received guidance that every person chooses when, where, and how that person transitions.

    When he got home he had received an email message from Abraham Hicks.

    The subject of that message was suicide. Abraham used the exact same words, “Every death, no exception, is suicide because you create your own reality.”

  • Atlas

    Sacred Stories

    She had been talking to her friend about synchronicity at a time during which she was in the process of exploring options for relief from physical discomfort. Someone had suggested she try Atlas Physical Therapy. She was hesitant.

    Running some errands she saw not one, but two company vehicles with the name Atlas. These were not two vehicles promoting the same company, but two completely different companies with that name.

    Having fun telling her friend about the sightings, she recalled another friend had suggested she watch the film Cloud Atlas.

    While out driving, her friend saw yet a different ‘Atlas’ company van!

    Sometimes synchronicity is clearly pointing the way. Even when the way is not always clear, it is always delightful to notice and be willing to receive the meaning of the message.

  • 11:30 Meeting

    She had missed a phone call about a meeting at 11:30. The meeting was to be at the local art gallery.

    Stopping by just to enjoy the current exhibit, she happened to be right where she needed to be at the time she needed to be there!

    The universe if filled with unseen helping hands….

    Please take time to notice. We are always being guided and supported.